YFP 066: 10 Home Buying Lessons Learned

10 Home Buying Lessons Learned

On Episode 066 of the Your Financial Pharmacist Podcast, Tim Ulbrich, Founder of Your Financial Pharmacist, talks through 10 home buying lessons that he learned over the past few months as his family makes the move from Northeast Ohio to Columbus. He shares the good, the bad, and the ugly and hopes these lessons learned will help you in your home buying journey.

Summary of Episode

Tim Ulbrich shares the top ten home buying lessons he’s learned.

1. DIY route
2. Read, re-read and understand the fine print
3. Set your own budget
4. Ask lots of questions
5. Put 20% down
6. Shop around
7. Consider the total cost of buying a home by including all of the fees
8. Long-term hidden costs can make a difference
9. Value of an emergency fund
10. Have a great team around you

Mentioned on the Show

• CommonBond
• YFP Episode 064: 6 Steps to Homebuying (Part 1)
• YFP Episode 065: 6 Steps to Homebuying (Part 2)
• Real Estate RPh
• YFP Concierge Service w/ Nate Hedrick
• YFP Facebook Group
• Send in Questions for Real Estate Rapid Fire Q&A
• Homebuying Quick Start Guide
• Script Financial
• Wyndam Capital Mortgage
• Dave Ramsey
• The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America’s Wealthy by Tom Stanley
• New York Times Rent or Buy Calculator

Episode Transcript

Tim Ulbrich: Welcome to Episode 066 of the Your Financial Pharmacist podcast. I’m excited to be here, and this week I’m flying solo, following up on the two-part episodes that we did in episodes 064 and 065 with Nate Hedrick, the Real Estate RPH. And he’s going to be coming back on next week in Episode 067. We’re going to be doing a rapid-fire Q&A all about home buying. So if you have questions related to home buying, make sure you get those questions answered and ask them. You can head on over to the Your Financial Pharmacist Facebook group or shoot us an email at [email protected], and we’d love to feature your question on the podcast next week in Episode 067.

So this week is all about lessons that my wife, Jess, and I have learned and in some cases, to be frank, mistakes that we’ve made during the home buying process. So we are in the thick of it right now, actually getting ready to move next weekend from northeast Ohio to Columbus, Ohio, so I’m in transition from my job at Northeast Ohio Medical University to Ohio State University. Go Buckeyes! Excited about the opportunities ahead and with this transition, of course, comes selling and buying a home. And so just a few weeks ago, when we were planning this episode, believe it or not, it started as five lessons learned. And it quickly grew to 10. And to be honest, it probably could be many more than that. But that’s just sometimes how it goes. And so this episode is about being transparent, it’s about being honest — I’m not going to hide anything from our listeners — and the reality is, even here, a topic that I feel like I know fairly well, I think this just shows that anything related to personal finance, we’re prone to making mistakes. There’s something to be learned in everything that we do. And obviously, I’m hopeful that these lessons can be passed on to you all in the community and can even help Jess and I as we go through this process again in the future.

So to be honest to the listeners, this process of home buying — and for those of you that have gone through it recently, you know that it can be exciting, it can be emotional, it can be stressful — all of which have a tendency to throw us off of our financial game. And I think when we’re talking about such a large purchase and a home buy, and obviously, the selling aspect of it as well, there’s lots of emotions that can be flying around, lots of excitement, lots of highs, lots of lows. And all of those I think are the more reason that we have to have our financial guard up when it comes to home buying and making sure we’re educated and ready to make the best decisions in this area.

And so a couple reminders that I have before we jump into some background about the move that Jess and I are going through and then I’ll jump into the 10 lessons learned. And if you listened to Episode 064 and 065, we reference that all of the month of September is about home buying. And so along with this month, we’ve developed a YFP first-time home buying quick start guide that you can download for free at YourFinancialPharmacist.com/homeguide. Again, that’s YourFinancialPharmacist.com/homeguide.

OK, so here’s the background. Jess and I have been living in northeast Ohio since 2009, actually neither of us are from this area. I grew up in Buffalo, New York — go Bills — and Jess grew up in the Toledo-Bowling Green area in Perrysburg she spent most of her life, and we’ve been in our current home in Rootstown, Ohio, for eight years. And we actually rented for one year prior to that, so we made the move directly after my year of residency. We came up to northeast Ohio, we’ve been here for nine years. Eight years, we’ve lived in our current home, and we had one year that we rented prior to doing that. Now, when we bought in 2010, we bought with an FHA loan — and you’ve heard us talk about that in episodes 064 and 065. And the main reason we did that is because we didn’t have 20% down for the home. And I’m going to talk about that as we do go through these 10 lessons that are learned. So we only put 3.5% down, which is standard with an FHA loan. At the time, we had lots of student loan debt, as you’ve heard me chronicle my journey before, had no significant emergency fund and had no clue, no idea of the process that’s involved. And ironically, as I look back on that, there was very little stress that was involved with that purchase when in fact, there probably should have been a lot of stress. Very little down, lots of student loan debt, no significant emergency fund, and having really no clue of what was going on and the papers that I was signing. Now, here we are in 2018, we’re moving to Columbus, exciting new job, going to be starting at Ohio State. I have no student loan debt, we’re able to put 20% down, we have a fully funded emergency fund, we’ve got a great retirement account and to start on that retirement. And I think we have a decent, solid understanding of the process. But to be honest, I’m finding it incredibly stressful. And I don’t know if that’s because I’m more aware of what’s going on, I’m more concerned about the places where things can go wrong, maybe I have a little bit of post-traumatic from 2010 and thinking of the things that I could have done better. Whatever the reality is, what I’m fearing right now in the moment as we’re about to close in the next week is I’m feeling a little bit stressed, a little bit anxious and obviously, there’s so many moving parts that go along with this process. And hopefully, we’re going to cover many of these in these lessons learned.

Now, the big difference here in 2018 is that we are both buying and selling. And obviously, all that comes with that and the timing of that can be incredibly stressful. So here’s the deal. At the end of the day, home buying, like any other part of your financial plan, it’s all about being intentional. Being prepared, putting it in the context of the rest of your financial plan, and giving yourself from grace when you make a mistake here or there, and learning from those mistakes and being willing to share those mistakes with others. The only difference here is this is arguably the largest purchase that you’re ever going to make.

And so here we go, 10 lessons that I’ve learned or maybe a better word here would be mistakes or maybe even things that have been reinforced for me as we went through the process back in 2010 and I’m reliving here in 2018.

No. 1, the DIY route, the Do It Yourself route, has saved us a lot of money. BUT, capital B-U-T, is that wow, it has been a lot of work and to be frank with you, I’m not sure if I would do it again. Now, what am I talking about, the DIY route? So No. 1 here, the DIY route has saved us a lot of money, but it’s been a lot of work, and I think it’s added a lot of stress along the way. So what I’m referring to is in terms of the DIY of the sale of our home. Now, the only reason we are doing a for-sale-by-owner is because we literally have somebody in our neighborhood that was interested in buying the home. And so long story short, a few months ago when we were just getting ready to think about putting our home up for sale, we have a Facebook community group that has a, somebody sent out a message and said, ‘Hey, we’ve got somebody in the neighborhood that’s been renting. They’re looking at buying. Is anybody looking at selling their home in the next year?’ Saw the message and said, ‘Well, in fact, we are.’ And so I reached out to them and said, ‘Hey, we’re looking at selling. If you’d love to see the home, we’d love to have you come over and check it out.’ They came over two days later, came back and saw the home another week later, and they said, ‘Hey, we want to buy the home.’ And so obviously at that point, I didn’t feel like we needed to have a realtor in the process to be giving up 6-7% of commissions on the home. And so ultimately, by not having a realtor in the process, that saved approximately $12,000-15,000 if we were to assume a 6-7% realtor fee on the sale price of the home, which is pretty standard. Now, that sounds great, $12,000-15,000, but as I’ve alluded to in the intro to this No. 1 DIY route saved us money, but is it’s been a lot of work, a lot of stress and a lot of ups and downs all the way. And so because we had a neighbor that was looking to buy it, it made sense, we didn’t have to go through the process. We have three young children, so going through that process of listing the home, showing the home, we’ve been through that before and we know how much work that could be. However, as I look back and as we work through the process of making sure the language in the purchase agreement or the contract was in line, looking and finding a title company that we felt comfortable with, being in constant communication between the parties, the different lending agencies, the title company, the sellers — or excuse me, the buyers that are looking at the home, you are that central glue to the process. And really, the thing that I think has got me the most is the uncertainty that can come with this process. And things have literally been in flux from the second we started working with these buyers. And nothing that necessarily is on their back, but they ended up switching lenders because they were having difficulties with one lender, which re-started the entire process, which meant that there was paperwork that had to get re-filed, and ultimately, we are now running up against potentially not having our closing dates align — fingers crossed we’ll hopefully figure that out tomorrow if that’s going to happen. And ultimately, we are so far along the process with them and we have been along the way, and it’s a great opportunity to have them involved so early, but where ultimately it’s at some regards at the whim of what’s going on in their situation, and so that can make things quite different. And now I will say if I did not feel comfortable with working a title company that we had a good connection with, being able to reach out to the Real Estate RPH, Nate Hedrick, with a question here or there, working with my financial planner and YFP team member Tim Baker, obviously all those really help support me along the way. But I think that as I look back on this journey, I’m not sure that I would do it again, although ultimately, it did save us money in the process, so what’s the lesson learned to be here? If you are somebody that is selling your home and you’re looking at the DIY route, make sure that you feel comfortable and understand all the pieces and parts of the process and not just look at what am I going to save by not having a realtor fee, but do you feel comfortable with everything that’s behind you and how might that also impact you on the buying side of things? So that’s lesson learned No. 1.

Lesson learned No. 2 is the importance of reading, re-reading and understanding the fine print. Now, this sounds like common sense, and you’re probably thinking, Tim, come on. You do this all the time, how do you not read the fine print? Now, it’s not that I didn’t read the fine print, I’m actually quite obsessive about reading the fine print. But it’s making sure that you don’t assume things along the way in the fine print and you re-read the fine print. And obviously when you’re going through this process, you’re excited about buying a home, you’re excited about selling a home, you want things to naturally work out, so you have an optimistic lens in which you’re reading things. And so I think that tendency there, at least it was for me, is to not really read to the detail and understand to the detail that you’re asking the tough, probing questions and you’re not making assumptions that somebody else is taking care of it. And so there’s lot of fine print to read. You have the purchase agreement documents, you have a loan estimate documents that will show you as you get closer to close what are all the different fees involved and what you need to bring to the table as you are selling your home, and as you’re buying your home, what you need to bring to the table at the point of close and what are all those fees that are involved and do you understand exactly what that 85-page document says. And if not, are you willing to ask the questions along the way? You know, what a couple examples that I’ve run through along the way here is actually in a home that we were looking at purchasing in Columbus, that ended up falling apart is that there was something in the contract, which come to find out is actually pretty standard in Columbus contracts, that essentially gives the sellers a three-day, 72-hour clause, almost like a seller’s remorse clause. So if for whatever reason within 72 hours the seller decides, you know what, I really don’t want to sell my home because of reason A, B or C, they can pursue that if they issue an attorney letter explaining exactly why they do not want to pursue that, and that ultimately gives them a right out of that contract or at least to have to offer a counter to that, but of course, they could offer something that is egregious and ultimately, you’re not going to be interested in anyway.

So I’m going to give you an example of this is that we were looking at a home in Columbus. And I never knew that a washer and dryer were something that would be such a big deal to a seller. So long story short, in Ohio, it’s pretty standard that your appliances are going to stay with the home, the washer, dryer, that was going to stay, that was in the contract. We were on vacation, we get a call from our real estate agent, who says, ‘Hey, you know what, the buyer — excuse me, the seller really didn’t want to give up their washer and dryer, they didn’t mean to do that. Can they pull it out of the contract?’ And without even thinking much about it, not really objectively thinking, you know what, now we’re going to have to spend money to buy a washer and dryer, wasn’t trying to be a jerk but said no problem, they can keep the washer and dryer. Just add $1,000 toward close and we’ll go out and buy a washer and dryer. Well, that apparently sent the seller off the deep end, and I guess if you love your washer and dryer, you love your washer and dryer, that’s how it is. And they decided to pursue that clause, issue an attorney letter, spent $300-something dollars to do that, and came back with a counter offer that was $20,000 above what we had originally agreed on, which obviously, we were not interested in at that point. And so the lesson there was I read the purchase agreement. I read every detail of it more than once. But I never caught that section and the detail that obviously until it plays out, I thought maybe you can’t even necessarily do that. And so making sure you’re asking questions where you’re confused, you have people around you that can help and support you, and I think what I’ve learned is that by reading the fine print and showing a commitment to your real estate agent if you’re working with one, to the title company, to the lender, the more you are reading, you’re learning, you’re asking questions, I think the more informed buyer that you are, and it keeps all parties accountable and they’re ready to answer your questions because they know they’re probably coming. So No. 2 is the importance of reading the fine print.

No. 3 is a key one. And Nate and I talked a little bit about this in episodes 064 and 065, but I want to reemphasize it here is that you as the buyer set your own budget. Do not let the bank or the lender set your own budget. And I can speak here from firsthand, going through this right now, is that it’s easy to look at a certain range and then you start looking and you think, that would really be nice or this area would be really nice, and all of a sudden, you’re creeping up. And if the lender is setting the budget for you, you’re not going to necessarily really evaluate does the purchase of this home fit within the context and the other financial priorities that I have? It’s a great example that’s right now is that when Jess and I started working with our lender, Wyndham Capital, who has been outstanding, they’ve done a great job, is that they essentially — and this is in part because I think the lending is fairly loose right now because of how good the market is versus where it was, say, 10 years ago after the crash — they pretty much said, I hear what you’re saying, I know what you want, but you can have double that. Or are you sure that you need to or want to sell your current home? Because you know what, you don’t necessarily have to from our end. And so remember, and Nate talked about something called the 28-36 rule that will be used by the lender in determining what they will allow you as a maximum, what they will allow you as a maximum, to take out or to loan. And the 28-36 rule basically says that a household should spend a maximum of 28% of its gross monthly income on total housing expenses, total housing expenses, and no more than 36% on total debt, including housing and other debt such as car loans and other debt that you have as well. So the 28-36 rule, which may be used by a bank to determine what they will allow you or what they will give you in a pre-approval, $400,000, $500,000, $300,000, isn’t necessarily what you should be purchasing in the context of your other financial goals. And this is where it’s really critical to take a step back and say, what other financial priority goals am I trying to achieve? Maybe it’s paying back student loans, maybe it’s paying off credit card debt, saving for retirement, kids’ college, whatever the other things that you’re working towards, and how can I purchase a home in a way that allows me to achieve these other goals? And what is the maximum I am willing to do in terms of that purchase, not what the bank is willing to give to me.

So just quickly, a couple rules of thumb that I really like that you may have heard of before. If you’ve listened to or read any of Dave Ramsey’s stuff, he refers to a mortgage payment — and there’s different variations I’ve heard of this — a mortgage payment — it could be the mortgage alone or it could be the mortgage and insurance, it could be the mortgage, insurance, taxes and interest, so you’ll hear different versions of this — that is no more than 25%, no more than 25%, of your take-home pay. So if your monthly take-home pay is $8,000, this rule of thumb would say that your mortgage payment, and if you want to be conservative, with taxes, with insurance, with interest, your total monthly payment would be no more than $2,000 if you had an $8,000 take-home pay. Now, what that’s trying to do is prevent you from becoming or feeling like you’re house-poor. So if you have other goals that you’re trying to work on and achieve, you know then that no more than 25% of your take-home pay is going toward your home. Therefore, you’ll be able to achieve your other goals. Now, that’s a great general rule of thumb, but some of you maybe listening have no student loan debt, others of you may have $200,000 of student loan debt plus credit card debt plus very little progress on retirement, and obviously, those two situations would be very different. And so you need to evaluate this on a case-by-case basis.

Another rule of thumb is from the book, “The Millionaire Next Door,” by Tom Stanley says that no more than 2x your household income on the purchase price of a home. So if you have a household income of say $150,000, no more than $300,000 on the purchase of your home. Again, that’s trying to get to this idea of preventing you from becoming house-poor. And I cannot emphasize right now for those of you that are looking at buying in this moment, the lending right now — and I’ve experienced this firsthand — is pretty loose, meaning that you as a pharmacist with a good income, a good, stable earning potential, I think you’re going to find that the bank is willing to give you much more home than you probably need to have and that you probably want in terms of the other goals that you’re trying to achieve. And so what I really encourage you to do is zoom out of the lens of just the monthly payment and look at the total payout of what this home is going to cost you. So as one example, if you were to have a purchase price of a home around a $350,000 with mortgage, taxes, insurance, assuming a 30-year home with about a 4.5% interest rate, it’d be about a monthly payment of $1,900 a month for 30 years. If you do the math, that $350,000 home over the course of 30 years, you’re going to pay out about $684,000. Now, it doesn’t mean it’s a bad decision. It may be a great decision, depending on the other financial goals and what you’re trying to achieve, but looking beyond just the monthly payment also helps you look at this in a different way and evaluate how does this fit in with the other goals that you’re trying to achieve.

So No. 3 here is set your own budget, it’s a great reminder. Jess and I had this reminder this year, especially as the lending is loose. Don’t let the bank set the budget for you.

No. 4 is ask lots and lots and lots of questions. And I alluded to this a little bit in No. 2, but Jess and I have experienced this firsthand is that you want to be respectfully annoying. Be respectfully annoying because I think asking questions and showing a desire to learn, as I mentioned before, keeps all parties — the title agency, the loan officers, the lenders, everyone that you’re working with — let’s them know that you have a desire to learn, let’s them know that you’re ready, you’re invested, and I think it keeps people more accountable along the way. And I’ve had several individuals in this process, everyone from the loan officer to the title agency say, ‘You know what, I can tell that you’re really interested in this, and I usually don’t get these types of questions.’ And I think ultimately, I want them to know that I’m probably going to be asking questions. I think that helps them give me a more detailed and thorough response, also helps keep them accountable to make sure that they are giving the attention due to the process that is going along the way.

And I think this is really true of anything, whether it’s a home, a car, any major purchase that you’re making, an educated buyer, I truly believe, is going to get the best value along the way. And so just a few examples that we have in the lesson learned of the value of asking lots of questions is by asking lots of questions along the way, this has allowed us to negotiate and reduce title fees that actually identified an error in a property tax calculation that got corrected — and maybe that would have probably been identified anyways, but that question really helped identify that, and obviously that led to a reduction in what will be our future monthly payment. And for us, most importantly, as those two examples I just gave you are short-term savings, is that it helped us ensure we understood the process and we know exactly what we’re paying for. So whether it’s cost at closing or whether it’s when we send in that monthly payment each and every month, I know exactly where that money is going each and every month. And I think obviously that is powerful in and of itself, but I think it’s valuable just to know going into the future when we do this again or as we’re helping guide others in the process as well, knowing where that money is going, I think obviously is going to help motivate us to eventually get this paid off and turn this liability into an asset.

OK, so No. 4 is asking lots of questions.

No. 5, I’ve hit on this many times on the podcast and in blog posts, is the importance of 20% down. Now, no judgment here. I’m speaking from making this mistake back in 2010, I alluded to that at the beginning of the episode. Jess and I put 3.5% down through an FHA loan, and to be frank with you, we were paying for that for many years — really up until probably the last year because the reality is the way the mortgage is constructed with interest, it takes so long to build up equity in a home. And so to me, there’s lots of reasons to have 20% down on a home. Instantly, you have equity in the home. So if something like 2008 were to happen and the housing market would flip, you’re not likely to be underwater on your mortgage. Or what if you go to sell unexpectedly in two years because of a job change? And maybe you thought you’d be there 10, 15 or 20, you could build up equity, but you’re not for whatever reason or something unexpected happens. Now, you may not have enough equity in the home to cover all the costs associated with selling that home. And obviously then, you’re going to need additional funds to bring to the table to cover those costs.

Other advantages of 20% down — obviously, no Private Mortgage Insurance, we’ve talked about that, PMI, which is foreclosure insurance. You don’t have restrictions that are associated with loans like an FHA loan, which is in terms of how that PMI is structured and how you’re going to pay it, more stringent inspections and appraisal processes. And I think obviously, 20% down just keeps it simple. No PMI, no restrictions on how that loan is being structured, a cleaner inspection, appraisal process, you’re not trying to buy points in the process and trying to eventually get your PMI reduced. It makes a conventional loan purchase process incredibly simple, and I think it makes you an attractive customer to the lender. That’s something I heard over and over again from the lender that we’re working with, Wyndham Capital said, ‘You know what, you’re a great buyer. And we’re glad to be working with you,’ and I think it’s because of that 20% down, they obviously feel very comfortable with that conventional loan.

Now, the other thing I think 20% down really does — and again, I’m speaking here out of a personal mistake — is that it forces you down in the expectation of the home that you’re buying. It forces you down in the expectation of the home that you’re buying. Now what do I mean by that? If Jess and I right now were to say, ‘You know, we really want to buy a $500,000 home,’ if we stayed committed to 20% down, that would mean we have to come up with $100,000 in cash to be able to go to closing at that home plus the closing costs on top of that. Now, if we don’t have $100,000 equity in our current home or we’re buying for the first time, that obviously is going to take a lot of time to build up $100,000 of cash to be able to close on that home. So I think what that does if you stay committed to 20% down, you say, you know what, maybe that’s a $250,000 home. Maybe that’s a $300,000 home. Maybe less than that or maybe slightly more than that, depending on the market that you’re living in, will allow you to potentially buy down on the home, whereas if you go into a 0% down loan or a 3.5% down loan where you have to bring very little, if any, cash to the table, obviously I think it’s much easier to buy up on home and find yourself in the situation where you feel house-poor.

So 20% was the lesson learned No. 5, and I think here, this is an important point where you really have to evaluate, am I rushing to buy a home? Should I stay in a rent situation for longer? Should I buy? We have talked about this at great length, and what I would reference you to and will link to in the show notes is the New York Times has a great rent v. buy calculator that really helps you look at this in an apples-to-apples way in the best that you can to make the comparison. Because I know the trap that I fell into was well, I’m paying $1,100 a month for rent, my mortgage with taxes and with insurance is going be $1,100 a month. Why wouldn’t I buy a home and build up some equity? And the reality I learned, which is an obvious one now looking back is that I was really building very little, if any, equity because of how the loan was structured and because I had almost nothing down and I forgot to include all those other fees on top of that in terms of the maintenance and everything that comes with the home that easily is upwards of 30-50% of the mortgage payment by itself.

So before we jump into points 6-10, I want to take a quick break and just re-emphasize something we talked about in episodes 064 and 065 is that if you are looking to buy or sell a home, get started in real estate investing or have a question that you want to have answered by a licensed real estate agent that is also a pharmacist, make sure to head on over to YourFinancialPharmaicst.com/realestateRPH to get in touch with Nate Hedrick, the Real Estate RPH. Again, that’s YourFinancialPharmaicst.com/realestateRPH. And you can submit your question. We have a few details and information to fill out, and he will respond to you as soon as possible. Again, we’ll have him back on in Episode 067 for the rapid-fire Q&A on home buying.

OK, so points 1-5, we covered lessons learned. No. 6 is shop around. Shop around for title companies that you’re working with if your contract allows that, shop around for the lender that you’re going to work with, but be careful how you do it. So lesson learned No. 6, shop around, but be careful how you do it. Now, why am I saying be careful how you do it? So I made a mistake — and I alluded to this on Episode 065 — I made the mistake of saying, I’d really like to see this tool that’s out there now advertised called Lending Tree becuase if it’s a good tool to compare for lenders, rather than just depending on the local bank or a lender that I’ve worked with previously, I’d love to be able to share that with the YFP community. Now, I’m glad I tested that first because honestly, I would not recommend that you use a tool like Lending Tree because I submitted my information, and literally for about a month-long period of time, I was getting phone calls and voice messages all day long of lenders trying to get ahold of me, even long after I selected a lender. And so I think that the point here is a good one is shopping around and not just depending on one lending quote or one title company, whatever you’re working with, one real estate agent, is really shopping around will allow you to look at multiple options just like you would with any other major purchase. However, do not just focus on the price when it comes to a title company or an insurance quote that you’re getting or a commission that you’re going to pay a real estate agent or a rate that you’re going to pay a lending company on your loan. That certainly is a critically important factor, but you need to make sure you’re looking at the other components like are they easy to work with? Are they communicative? Are they responsive? Do they have a good reputation? Because I can tell you from this process over the last month, all of these individuals I’ve been in touch with, on some weeks on a daily basis. And so working with one lending agency that’s going to give you a 4.55% rate versus another that’s going to give you a 4.6% rate, but one’s not going to respond to you as much or not going to close on time, they’re going to cause you a lot of headaches, you have to really evaluate is it worth it? And obviously, if you can get the best of both worlds, that’s the place to go. And so making sure you’re shopping around for all these different areas, making sure you know what is and is not neogtiable, I think is a great lesson to be learned, certainly one that I’ve learned. But be careful how you do it in terms of getting multiple quotes.

Lesson No. 7 is make sure to consider all of the total costs and fees that are associated with buying a home — and if you’re selling a home, obviously that’s associated with the selling as well. And to be fair and to be honest, don’t be surprised by a few more that come along the way. And there was sometimes I would look at documents, and just this past week, I was looking at our loan estimate closing documents, and all this laundry list of title fees and no explanation of what they are. And they ended up being legitimate fees, but again, back to being an educated buyer, making sure you’re asking questions, making sure you’re trying to compare one of these to another if you’re looking at shopping around with two different companies, but I think what tends to happen when you’re buying a home is you hone in on the sale price of the home alone. So ooh, that home’s at $350,000, it’s within our budget. Great, that is certainly an important factor, but what about all of the other fees that are involved.

Now, if you’re just buying a home, as Nate mentioned on the previous episodes, there’s really no realtor fees that are involved because of how they’re absorbed by the seller, so that’s simplified somewhat. However, when you’re on the selling end, you obviously have the realtor fees, which can be 5-7%, roughly, of the sale of the home. And depending on the purchase agreement, you may be responsible for some of those at the buyer’s expense. And obviously, that can vary from state to state, region to region, purchase ot purchase. You’ve got the down payment on the home, you’ve got the appraisal cost, you’ve got inspection, you’ve got title fees, you’ve got prepaids at close in terms of homeowners insurance and mortgage insurance if you don’t have 20% down, and property taxes and HOA fees. You’ve got moving fees, right? So if you have to pick up and move across the state or across the country, are you going to hire a mover? Are you going to do it yourself? Are you going to have them pack? Are you not going to have them pack? And of course, you have the transitionary fees. So as you’re in the pack-up phase, you’re probably eating out more, you’re taking trips to Lowe’s to fix things on your current home before you sell if that’s the case or when you’re buying a home, when you get there to do some quick home improvements. So really set out and not just look at the purchase price and say, ‘OK, we got to 20% down or whatever our goal is.’ But look at all of the costs that are involved with the purchase along the way.

And prior to this episode, I sent a note out to our Facebook group to say, hey, what are some of the lessons that you’ve learned along the way when it comes to home buying. And I like what Wes said in terms of ‘be wary of what’s called a special assessment fee in a new neighborhood. Typically, it’s a fee being applied to each homeowner for the cost of development of the new neighborhood. Think bonds taken out by the municipality that include interest that then are being applied equally to each new homeowner for a period of time, say it’s 10 years.’ So Wes, thank you for contributing. For those of you that are not yet a part of the YFP Facebook group, we’d love to have you join. And I think that’s just an example of this laundry list of fees and miscellaneous fees and more fees that can come along the way. And I think the lesson that Jess and I learned is we are so focused on the sale price and so focused at getting that 20% down, thankfully, we had some buffer beyond our six-month emergency fund, our 3-6 months emergency fund to cover some of these other costs. But making sure you’re really looking at the entire picture of all fees that are involved. So that’s No. 7 is consider all the costs.

No. 8, the lesson learned here is the long-term “hidden costs” when buying a home that can make a difference. Now, I’m not talking about the transactional cost, I’m talking about the long-term hidden costs beyond what I just covered in lesson No. 7. So here, we’re talking beyond the sale price, beyond the transaction costs. So what I’m referring to here are things like property taxes, homeowner’s insurance, HOA fees, local income tax if that is applicable or not. And so I think here that again, another area you tend to focus, I know we tend to focus, on the sale price of a home. But in reality, from one neighborhood to another in the same city, your property taxes could be different by $2,000-3,000 a year. Well, that has a huge impact on your monthly payment. Or homeowner’s insurance that you’re going to be paying each and every month, each and every year. Or does the development have HOA fees or not? Does the city have a 1-2% local income tax or not that you’re going to be paying each and every year? These are the long-term, what I call hidden costs that — not saying you necessarily wnat to avoid these because there could be great reasons for being in an area that has these: great schools, great community, great neighborhoods, etc. — but making sure you’re aware of these and how they’re going to contribute to your monthly payment and making sure you’ll be able to stay within budget and to achieve your other financial goals.

And Brittany from the Facebook group here says that, ‘Upkeep costs of one home versus another for sure. So we have two acres and a pool. Upkeep is quite pricy.’ And I think that’s great is if you’re looking at two very different styles of home that’s on land, a home that’s not on land, a home that has a pool, a home that does not have a pool, or any other factor like that, what is going to be the upkeep differences and making sure you’re acounting for those and how that may fit into your monthly budget, obviously those factors being beyond your monthly payment.

No. 9, Jess and I have learned this firsthand, we are feeling it right now, is the value of having a solid emergency fund in place when you’re making these big purchases. So we’ve talked many times before on this podcast and the blog, 3-6 months of expenses in a long-term savings account set aside to cover a job loss or some other emergency fund, and I think it goes without saying that here, when you’re making a massive purchase, you’re in a transitionary period of time, a solid emergency fund in place gives you peace of mind that if something goes wrong on either end, if you’re buying or selling, or you have some backup there during a transition, if you have a gap of employment, as I mentioned, something goes wrong, the peace of mind here can not be traded in terms of what a solid emergency fund will bring. And so I’m a big advocate of, again, 20% down, a solid emergecny fund, neither of which Jess and I did on our first purchase, both of which we’re doing now, brings an incredible amount of peace and I think reduces anxiety during that transitionary period.

And finally, lesson learned No. 10 is the importance of having a good team around you. Now, I mentioned at the very beginning, lesson No. 1, that we’ve taken the DIY for-sale-by-owner approach because we had essentially a buyer approach us in our neighborhood. And so we don’t have the real estate agent involved in the process. However, as I alluded to, if I had to do it all over again, even with a known buyer, I would question that decision, although it’s had great value. And so here, a great team around you, I’m referring to a real estate agent that is transparent, that is acting in your best interests, that you know and that you trust; a good financial planner that knows your situation and that can keep you accountable in this process. So for Jess and I, Tim Baker is a phone call away, and I called him just a couple weeks ago because we were having some potential issues and still are potentially with closing dates to say, hey, what are the options? Help talk me through this. What am I not thinking about? What are my blind spots? And I think for such an emotional, big decision, having a financial planner on your team that can say, hey, does this fit in the context of all these other things that we talked about? Or what if we waited three more months? Or maybe it’s the right time, but what about this or that? Somebody to keep you and/or a spouse accountable through this process is incredibly important. Obviously, you have the lender, the title company, this team is one that you’re going to be communicating with regularly. And Nate alluded to this on previous episodes, making sure you have this team ready to go and knows exactly what your priorities are before you get started in the process.

So there you have it, 10 lessons learned that are reinforced or in some cases, mistakes that we’ve made through this process. And we’re not fully through it yet. So we’ve got a couple weeks. Hopefully at the end of this month, we’re going to be moving into the home in Columbus. We’re in the final processes of getting paperwork signed, closing date’s hopefully this Friday, early next week. And so stay tuned; I may have more stories to share — successes, mistakes along the way. Again, that’s what this is all about, hopefully helping you learn through the process as well and I’m hoping through these lessons, you can save yourself some headaches and do this in a better way or potentially even share some of your own stories with others as well.

So as a reminder as we wrap up here, again, along with this month-long series, we have a YFP first-time home buying quick start guide that you can download at YourFinancialPharmacist.com/homeguide. Again, that’s YourFinancialPharmacist.com/homeguide. And as we wrap up this episode of the podcast, I want to take a moment to again thank our sponsor of today’s show, Common Bond.

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Tim Ulbrich: Thank you so much for joining me today. I look forward to next week’s episode where we’ll bring Nate, the Real Estate RPH, back on to do a rapid-fire Q&A on home buying. Have a great rest of your week.

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